Is There Room For Lament?
Elvis sang it best, "I'll have a blue, blue, blue Christmas without you." Are you finding yourself in a difficult season? Grief is an extremly common human emotion, in fact it is said around 40% of the bible is written as lament. I find this fact both comforting and a little overwhelming, let me explain.
Lament, grief, sadness, disappointment, these emotions can be overwhelming, even surprising, so I raise the question can we be better prepared for grief? You may find yourself somewhere on the pathways of grief (walking with, through or alongside) but I would dare argue the lack of grief culture is really what can hold us back in our personal growth.. Are we actively looking for ways to create practices that assist with grief?
I love the term "holding space," it is a very simple invitation to surrender to grief's mysterious and often surprising ways; the waves of grief are not uniform or predictable, but being "with" can be a tremendous help. Can we let go of trying to making sense of grief and simply aim to be near, be beside, be alongside when the storms of grief decide to rage?
Here is a little more from Bono on this subject. "I became an artist through the portal of grief." - Bono